It is holiday season so I've been spending a lot of time with family and less time reading my book. So, NO this is not an update on the book but more so a list of the things I love and what I have to look forward to in 2011...
I love my parents for being the most stable rock I have in my life right now. Sure, we fight and sometimes bring out the worst in each other. But we always find a way to make things work. My dad provides me with the guide book on right and wrong. My mom provides me with the best friend I know will always be there. My step-mom provides me with a shopping buddy, and an extra ear to listen to all the drama that consumes me sometimes. My step-dad provides me with the humor I need on a not-so-good day. I couldn't ask for a better set of grown-ups to look up to....
I love my siblings. Before my step-brothers came into my life, it was just my younger brother and I. We were best buddies and nothing could come between us. Now, I am the happiest girl in the world because I get to share that love with not only 3 other brothers, but 3 sisters. Thomas has been my best friend since the day he was born and always will be. Sammy is my guidance counselor, always there to talk to and I love her with all my heart for it. Ross is a role-model in that he will continue to prove to people he is capable of anything in this world. Leslie is not my closest sister, but I know would always pick up the phone if I needed her. Marcus is my protector, making sure my heart is never given to the wrong person. Mike and I are the closest in age and therefore we will always look out for each other. I see him with Kingston and pray that I can be the type of parent he is. Sam is my dance partner in crime, never afraid to make a fool of herself with me on the dance floor. My siblings mean the world to me....
I love my neices and nephews. Every single one of them! They are the loves of my life and always will be. They are the smiles that keep me going every morning and they are the laughter that fills my heart with sunshine on cloudy days! (Everyone knows they are the cutest things in the world too!)....
I love my friends! I throw around the term "best friend" a lot but those that truly are my best friends are the ones that have made the biggest impacts on my character. I have those that have been my friends forever, and those who have just recently become a big influence to me. My girls (you know who all are but to give specific recognition to Rachel, Ellie, Amanda, Allyson, Treasure, Taylor, Renee, and Amber) you girls are my loves as well. I can always count on you to be there! We all know that I am not a fan of having girl-friends so you are the special few! Rachel, you are by far my best friend. We think on the same wave-length ALL the time and I couldn't ask for Eric to have brought a better person into my life! Ellie, you are my big sis and always will be, no matter how far apart we live. Amanda, you are my little advice giver, my go to girl for any question I might have. Allyson, you are my little firecracker, ready to do whatever to have fun! Treasure, you are my office mate that I miss so much! Taylor, you are my little sis and I am so excited to see you grow into the mom I know you are going to be. Renee, you are my little mom, the mature one making sure the rest of us stay in check. Amber, you are my north star, my light on my pathway through life and I know you are going to be an amazing woman in the future! I love you girls to death!!! To all of my guy friends (and you know who you are and I don't need to pinpoint out each of you since guys do not like this kind of thing anyways but ) thanks for letting me be "one of the guys." I wouldn't trade my time with any of you (especially those of you who have stuck around for longer than a couple of months in my life). Eric, Austin, Chris, Ian, Corey, Drew, Nick, David, Danny, Marshall, Ryan, and Nathan... I love you boys! Thanks for putting up with me and my habits for longer than a week!! =) My friends are the best a girl could ever ask for!.....
As odd as this might sound, I love my ex's and my flings. Thank you for teaching me what a relationship should and shouldn't be. Thank you for showing me what I truly needed to find within myself before allowing my heart to be given to another. Thank you for showing me the difference between love and lust. Thank you for showing me that my heart is the most precious gift I could ever give someone and it should not be taken lightly.....
I love the freedom I have as an American because of the men and women who fight for that freedom on a daily basis. Thank you to those who are currently or who have ever served in the military! (By the way, I will be working starting this semester on a new organization called "Women of War" for Las Vegas. Majority of the services offered for military coming home from war are targeted towards men and I feel that something needs to be done for the women who are giving their time just as equally. If anyone is interested in helping, let me know)......
I love that I have been given the opportunity to travel and see other parts of the world that many people will never even see pictures of in their lifetimes. My adventures will continue throughout the world, as soon as school allows me the time.....
I love the joys of late night movies, cuddling in bed on a rainy day, kisses from my puppies, the New York Yankees, the Arizona Cardinals, my collection of books, being a girly girl and tom boy at the same time, flowers from someone I love on a random day, laughing to the point of crying with a friend when no one else in the room understands whats going on, youtube videos that become inside jokes and ringtones (ding ding ding ding ding ding), the ability to do what I want to do when I want to do it, the accomplishments I thought I would never have, and being an individual so unique that saying I fit the standard is far from the truth....
I love that I have the opportunity to further my education as a female in the U.S. We still do not make nearly as much as we should in the same profession as men but let me tell you, I'm going to be the most badass counselor any one will ever go to!....
I would love it if everyone would comment on here about at least one thing you love! Let's all share things that mean the most to us! I'd love to hear them!...
In closing, I love the person I have become and the person I know I am going to be in the future. My future is bright people so if you are coming along for the journey, make sure to bring your sunglasses!!
"God places the heaviest burden on those who can carry the weight."
- Reggie White
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Chapters 7 and 8
Ok...
So chapter 7 is all about quotes from men that the author thought were extremely important for women to see. She grouped them into categories according to what the men were talking about. Categories are "15 signs that women are needy," "15 reasons men play it cool," "15 male views on keeping the romance alive," "15 things that turn men off," "15 reasons men prefer a fiesty woman," and "the top 10 ways to tell a man is in love." I will give you guys a quote from each section that I felt was the best and then the lessons I took away from the chapter..
Signs that women are needy.... "I think a woman that talks less is more attractive because it makes her more mysterious.It is not a good thing to just ramble on. Communication should be about quality not quantity. If a woman is uncomfortable or bothered, he should be able to feel it without her saying a word."
Reasons men play it cool.... "Men are needier sexually. Women can control their sex drives, whereas men are controlled by theirs."
Keeping the romance alive... "I like a woman who takes the intiative sexually from time to time. Maybe not the first time, but definitely when you are in a relationship. It makes him feel like you want him more."
Turning men off... "I like a woman I can see without any pressure involved. If a guy is under a lot of pressure and she adds to it, he'll immediately shut down."
Preferring a fiesty woman... "When you banter with a woman and she can give it right back to you, it's a turn on."
When a man is in love...."Suddenly he feels like he can stop looking around the corner for someone else."
AND the lessons from Chapter 7.....
~ Many women talk a lot out of nervousness - which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity.
~ Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he's with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun.
~ Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he'll pay even less attention to your feelings.
~ In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he'll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long.
~ Men treat women the way they treat other men. They play it cool because they don't want to appear weak or desperate.
~ The element of surprise both inside and outside the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement.
~ Don't always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn't become a predictable routine.
~ Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable.
~ Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.
~ Men automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.
~ When a man falls in love, suddenly he'll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He'll do things for this woman he wouldn't have done for anyone else.
Chapter 8 is about being financially independent so that at any time he can not hold your dependence on him over your head....
~ He'll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own two feet financially.
~ You have to show that you won't accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.
~ Your pink slip is mantained when you can stand on your own - with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely at his mercy.
~ When a man views a woman as a "little girl" or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn't want to make love to his sister.
~ The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that will give you more power than any material object ever will.
~ In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn't bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person.
~ Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has 100 percent hold on you.
~ Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on.
~ People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight.
AND... quote for the night....
"When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them."
- Marilyn Monroe
GOODNIGHT EVERYONE!!
So chapter 7 is all about quotes from men that the author thought were extremely important for women to see. She grouped them into categories according to what the men were talking about. Categories are "15 signs that women are needy," "15 reasons men play it cool," "15 male views on keeping the romance alive," "15 things that turn men off," "15 reasons men prefer a fiesty woman," and "the top 10 ways to tell a man is in love." I will give you guys a quote from each section that I felt was the best and then the lessons I took away from the chapter..
Signs that women are needy.... "I think a woman that talks less is more attractive because it makes her more mysterious.It is not a good thing to just ramble on. Communication should be about quality not quantity. If a woman is uncomfortable or bothered, he should be able to feel it without her saying a word."
Reasons men play it cool.... "Men are needier sexually. Women can control their sex drives, whereas men are controlled by theirs."
Keeping the romance alive... "I like a woman who takes the intiative sexually from time to time. Maybe not the first time, but definitely when you are in a relationship. It makes him feel like you want him more."
Turning men off... "I like a woman I can see without any pressure involved. If a guy is under a lot of pressure and she adds to it, he'll immediately shut down."
Preferring a fiesty woman... "When you banter with a woman and she can give it right back to you, it's a turn on."
When a man is in love...."Suddenly he feels like he can stop looking around the corner for someone else."
AND the lessons from Chapter 7.....
~ Many women talk a lot out of nervousness - which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity.
~ Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he's with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun.
~ Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he'll pay even less attention to your feelings.
~ In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he'll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long.
~ Men treat women the way they treat other men. They play it cool because they don't want to appear weak or desperate.
~ The element of surprise both inside and outside the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement.
~ Don't always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn't become a predictable routine.
~ Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable.
~ Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.
~ Men automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.
~ When a man falls in love, suddenly he'll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He'll do things for this woman he wouldn't have done for anyone else.
Chapter 8 is about being financially independent so that at any time he can not hold your dependence on him over your head....
~ He'll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own two feet financially.
~ You have to show that you won't accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.
~ Your pink slip is mantained when you can stand on your own - with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely at his mercy.
~ When a man views a woman as a "little girl" or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn't want to make love to his sister.
~ The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that will give you more power than any material object ever will.
~ In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn't bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person.
~ Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has 100 percent hold on you.
~ Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on.
~ People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight.
AND... quote for the night....
"When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them."
- Marilyn Monroe
GOODNIGHT EVERYONE!!
Chapter 6
Hey guys....
Sorry I haven't updated lately. Things have been kind of crazy the past couple of days and I took some time off reading to figure out what my next steps are going to be in life. But I finished Chapter 6 and it was definitely one of the more serious chapters. It was about nagging and how to get things done without him tuning you out. Here are the lessons from the chapter...
~ When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention.
~ When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still "right there."
~ When the routine becomes predictable, he's more likely to give you the same type of love he has for his mother - and the odds he will take you for granted increase.
~ Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know he has you right where he wants you.
~ When you treat him casually as though he is a friend, he'll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also "wants" to be your partner.
~ A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you.
~ A man takes a woman for granted when he's interested, but will no longer go out of his way.
~ When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don't nag, he deals with the problem.
~ If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing them, he will want his chores back.
~ When you nag, he sees weakness.
~ He sees an emotional woman as more of a pushover.
~ In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloff demeanor can often renew his prospect.
~ He will forget what he has in you - unless you remind him.
About halfway thru the book and getting so excited to finish it. Hope you all are loving the updates... I will be loaning out the book after I am done if anyone wants to read it! Love you!
And of course... the quote of the night....
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
- Marilyn Monroe
Sorry I haven't updated lately. Things have been kind of crazy the past couple of days and I took some time off reading to figure out what my next steps are going to be in life. But I finished Chapter 6 and it was definitely one of the more serious chapters. It was about nagging and how to get things done without him tuning you out. Here are the lessons from the chapter...
~ When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention.
~ When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still "right there."
~ When the routine becomes predictable, he's more likely to give you the same type of love he has for his mother - and the odds he will take you for granted increase.
~ Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know he has you right where he wants you.
~ When you treat him casually as though he is a friend, he'll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also "wants" to be your partner.
~ A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you.
~ A man takes a woman for granted when he's interested, but will no longer go out of his way.
~ When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don't nag, he deals with the problem.
~ If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing them, he will want his chores back.
~ When you nag, he sees weakness.
~ He sees an emotional woman as more of a pushover.
~ In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloff demeanor can often renew his prospect.
~ He will forget what he has in you - unless you remind him.
About halfway thru the book and getting so excited to finish it. Hope you all are loving the updates... I will be loaning out the book after I am done if anyone wants to read it! Love you!
And of course... the quote of the night....
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
- Marilyn Monroe
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Chapters 3, 4, and 5!
Lessons from each....
CHAPTER 3
~ Don't sleep with him right away! You are a "candy store" and you should only give him one piece at a time, not open access after hours!
~ Make him earn you sexual advances.
~ TRICK: Instead of wearing that black lace nightie, hang it on the inside of the bathroom door so that when he is in there, he sees it and then has to imagine you in it for the rest of the night.
~ The longer he has to wait, the more of a challenge it becomes and his competitive nature will kick in to win you over.
~ Red means no, green means yes, and yellow means you are being a tease and pissing him off!
~ Once you become a booty call, he will lose respect for you and will no longer see you in a long term relationship view.
CHAPTER 4
~ Cater to his ego. Let him be the manly man.
~ When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
~ Use words such as "best" to let him know you think highly of him. Make sure you always tell him he's right or it was his idea.
~ The "dumb fox" makes him feel like King Kong in her world and there are many ways to "stroke his ego"... If you are walking your dog at dusk, ask him to come with because you want him to keep you safe... If he kills a bug, look away and do not turn back until he assures you he has secured the premises.... If you hear a noise at night, act really scared and ask him to check it out... Ask him to open a jar you can't open (even if you can) or unzip your dress (even if you can reach it)... If it's cold outside, crawl under his coat and hold on tight for warmth
~ He'll let a women who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn't even think of it with his dreamgirl.
~ Remember that men are very territorial so divide the house to where he doesn't feel like you are controlling when you take over the bathroom (make it clear that the garage, basement, and yard are his domain)
~ Men don't respond to words. They respond to no contact.
~ When you are always HAPPY, and he is always free to GO, he feels lucky.
CHAPTER 5
~ If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you'll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you'll start to expect and need more from your partner.
~ A woman looks more secure in a man's eyes when he can't pull her away from her life, because she is content in her life.
~ Your true power is marked by: realizing what your rhythm is and moving to it, knowing who you are and what you will or will not accept, having the ability to make a decision without second guessing yourself afterward and without being talked out of how you feel, and having self-control because true power is the control you have over yourself.
~ Don't talk for hours before your first date. Don't discuss deep issues in the beginning. Don't tell him who you were in a past life. Avoid seeing him more than one night in a row for the first month or so (1 or 2 nights per week is perfect). Don't pout or whimper when he doesn't call. Don't try to fix his flaws. Don't accompany him when he goes out with the boys. Don't happily drive over to his house if he calls you late at night after being out with friends. Don't date someone who has an addiction of any kind and offer to go to meetings with him (let him fix his problems first). Avoid last minute dates because you miss him. Don't ask for affection if he isn't showing any.
~ To keep the spark from fizzling, it's sometimes best to stay ever-so-slightly just outside a man's reach, because it charges up his batteries.
MORE UPDATES TOMORROW =)
OOO and can't forget the quote....
"I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love."
-Marilyn Monroe
CHAPTER 3
~ Don't sleep with him right away! You are a "candy store" and you should only give him one piece at a time, not open access after hours!
~ Make him earn you sexual advances.
~ TRICK: Instead of wearing that black lace nightie, hang it on the inside of the bathroom door so that when he is in there, he sees it and then has to imagine you in it for the rest of the night.
~ The longer he has to wait, the more of a challenge it becomes and his competitive nature will kick in to win you over.
~ Red means no, green means yes, and yellow means you are being a tease and pissing him off!
~ Once you become a booty call, he will lose respect for you and will no longer see you in a long term relationship view.
CHAPTER 4
~ Cater to his ego. Let him be the manly man.
~ When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
~ Use words such as "best" to let him know you think highly of him. Make sure you always tell him he's right or it was his idea.
~ The "dumb fox" makes him feel like King Kong in her world and there are many ways to "stroke his ego"... If you are walking your dog at dusk, ask him to come with because you want him to keep you safe... If he kills a bug, look away and do not turn back until he assures you he has secured the premises.... If you hear a noise at night, act really scared and ask him to check it out... Ask him to open a jar you can't open (even if you can) or unzip your dress (even if you can reach it)... If it's cold outside, crawl under his coat and hold on tight for warmth
~ He'll let a women who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn't even think of it with his dreamgirl.
~ Remember that men are very territorial so divide the house to where he doesn't feel like you are controlling when you take over the bathroom (make it clear that the garage, basement, and yard are his domain)
~ Men don't respond to words. They respond to no contact.
~ When you are always HAPPY, and he is always free to GO, he feels lucky.
CHAPTER 5
~ If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you'll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you'll start to expect and need more from your partner.
~ A woman looks more secure in a man's eyes when he can't pull her away from her life, because she is content in her life.
~ Your true power is marked by: realizing what your rhythm is and moving to it, knowing who you are and what you will or will not accept, having the ability to make a decision without second guessing yourself afterward and without being talked out of how you feel, and having self-control because true power is the control you have over yourself.
~ Don't talk for hours before your first date. Don't discuss deep issues in the beginning. Don't tell him who you were in a past life. Avoid seeing him more than one night in a row for the first month or so (1 or 2 nights per week is perfect). Don't pout or whimper when he doesn't call. Don't try to fix his flaws. Don't accompany him when he goes out with the boys. Don't happily drive over to his house if he calls you late at night after being out with friends. Don't date someone who has an addiction of any kind and offer to go to meetings with him (let him fix his problems first). Avoid last minute dates because you miss him. Don't ask for affection if he isn't showing any.
~ To keep the spark from fizzling, it's sometimes best to stay ever-so-slightly just outside a man's reach, because it charges up his batteries.
MORE UPDATES TOMORROW =)
OOO and can't forget the quote....
"I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love."
-Marilyn Monroe
Lessons learned... so far!
Through chapters 1 and 2, this is the basic break down of what I have been taught...
Don't chase him because giving it up too much while only make him run the other direction.
ALWAYS answering his calls and be there for last minute trips to his place means he has control over you and is going to use you as a doormat. Make sure to never cancel plans you already had.
Act as a prize to be won and he will turn into a believer.
Be the Christmas toy he always wanted but never got.
Sometimes men deliberatly do not call to see how you respond and how far he can push you. Don't sweat and act as if nothing even phased you.
The biggest variable between a bitch and a girl who is too nice is fear. A bitch is not afraid to show she can be without him.
Not giving in all the time makes you more of a challenge to him and more valuable to win over.
I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! More updates to come later!!
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
- Marilyn Monroe
Don't chase him because giving it up too much while only make him run the other direction.
ALWAYS answering his calls and be there for last minute trips to his place means he has control over you and is going to use you as a doormat. Make sure to never cancel plans you already had.
Act as a prize to be won and he will turn into a believer.
Be the Christmas toy he always wanted but never got.
Sometimes men deliberatly do not call to see how you respond and how far he can push you. Don't sweat and act as if nothing even phased you.
The biggest variable between a bitch and a girl who is too nice is fear. A bitch is not afraid to show she can be without him.
Not giving in all the time makes you more of a challenge to him and more valuable to win over.
I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! More updates to come later!!
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
- Marilyn Monroe
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Best book EVER!!!!!
Okay so completely random before I get started...
Last night was sooo much fun! It was my Dad's 50th birthday party. My step-mom and I managed to organize a 60s themed event complete with dj, disco balls, bartender, taco maker guys, fire pits, and as much dancing as possible! Nothing makes me laugh harder than seeing my dad when he's been drinking. He lets loose and has a good time. Now, if only he could remember the next morning the fact that he tried to pole dance on one of the heat lamps and almost took a tumble into the pool. Everyone made the party so much fun and I'm officially calling this party a success!! Videos can be seen on my flickr account at http://www.flickr.com/photos/46379050@N04/ ... There are 5 videos (the calm before the storm, the electric slide, the cupid shuffle, the soul train line, and my dad ranting about how cute he was as a baby while we sang happy birthday)! Feel free to comment!
So now back to why I wanted to write this post. I was at Borders the other day buying Christmas presents and came across a serious of books that by the titles, completely caught my eye. The first book is "Why Men Love Bitches." By reading the back, I knew I had to buy it. This is exactly what it says....
"Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a yes woman who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: Why are men so romantice in the beginning and why do they change? Why do men take nice girls for granted? Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, she says/he thinks tables, and the author's unique Attraction Principles, Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry- you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort."
Never in a million years would I have ever seen myself reading this book but I thought it looked like it could be quite interesting. As I read through the book, I will be updating you guys on the chapters and what I'm finding myself thinking about them. Seeing how I am normally "the nice girl" or "one of the guys" to all men who come into my life, I'm going to see what type of attitude develops from this! Just a tease, here's the list of chapter names and the first "attraction principle" listed in the book...
1) From Doormat to Dream Girl (Act Like a Prize and You'll Turn Him Into a Believer)
2) Why Men Prefer Bitches (Cracking the Code: What Every Nice Girl Needs to Know)
3) The Candy Store (How to Make the Most of Your Feminine and Sexual Powers)
4) Dumb Like a Fox (How to Convince Him He's in Control)
5) Jumping Through Hoops Like a Circus Poodle (When Women Give Themselves Away and Become Needy)
6) Nagging No More (What to Do When He Takes You for Granted)
7) The Other Team's Secret "Playbook" (Things You Suspected but Never Heard Him Say)
8) Keeping Your Pink Slip (The Reasons That Your Holding Your Own)
9) How to Renew the Mental Challenge (How to Regain That Spark)
10) Gaining Control on Your Emotions (Q&A Letters from Readers)
11) The New and Improved Bitch (The Survival Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice)
Attraction Principle #1 : Anything a person chases in life runs away.
Aren't you guys so excited to hear the updates on this book!?
I know I'm excited to finish reading it!
Can't forget my quote for the night.... (they will probably all be coming from this book for just brace yourself)
"Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got."
~ Sophia Loren
Last night was sooo much fun! It was my Dad's 50th birthday party. My step-mom and I managed to organize a 60s themed event complete with dj, disco balls, bartender, taco maker guys, fire pits, and as much dancing as possible! Nothing makes me laugh harder than seeing my dad when he's been drinking. He lets loose and has a good time. Now, if only he could remember the next morning the fact that he tried to pole dance on one of the heat lamps and almost took a tumble into the pool. Everyone made the party so much fun and I'm officially calling this party a success!! Videos can be seen on my flickr account at http://www.flickr.com/photos/46379050@N04/ ... There are 5 videos (the calm before the storm, the electric slide, the cupid shuffle, the soul train line, and my dad ranting about how cute he was as a baby while we sang happy birthday)! Feel free to comment!
So now back to why I wanted to write this post. I was at Borders the other day buying Christmas presents and came across a serious of books that by the titles, completely caught my eye. The first book is "Why Men Love Bitches." By reading the back, I knew I had to buy it. This is exactly what it says....
"Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a yes woman who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: Why are men so romantice in the beginning and why do they change? Why do men take nice girls for granted? Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, she says/he thinks tables, and the author's unique Attraction Principles, Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry- you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort."
Never in a million years would I have ever seen myself reading this book but I thought it looked like it could be quite interesting. As I read through the book, I will be updating you guys on the chapters and what I'm finding myself thinking about them. Seeing how I am normally "the nice girl" or "one of the guys" to all men who come into my life, I'm going to see what type of attitude develops from this! Just a tease, here's the list of chapter names and the first "attraction principle" listed in the book...
1) From Doormat to Dream Girl (Act Like a Prize and You'll Turn Him Into a Believer)
2) Why Men Prefer Bitches (Cracking the Code: What Every Nice Girl Needs to Know)
3) The Candy Store (How to Make the Most of Your Feminine and Sexual Powers)
4) Dumb Like a Fox (How to Convince Him He's in Control)
5) Jumping Through Hoops Like a Circus Poodle (When Women Give Themselves Away and Become Needy)
6) Nagging No More (What to Do When He Takes You for Granted)
7) The Other Team's Secret "Playbook" (Things You Suspected but Never Heard Him Say)
8) Keeping Your Pink Slip (The Reasons That Your Holding Your Own)
9) How to Renew the Mental Challenge (How to Regain That Spark)
10) Gaining Control on Your Emotions (Q&A Letters from Readers)
11) The New and Improved Bitch (The Survival Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice)
Attraction Principle #1 : Anything a person chases in life runs away.
Aren't you guys so excited to hear the updates on this book!?
I know I'm excited to finish reading it!
Can't forget my quote for the night.... (they will probably all be coming from this book for just brace yourself)
"Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got."
~ Sophia Loren
Friday, December 10, 2010
Moving forward...
YAY!! It's officially end of the semester... now if only it were Monday so I knew what those final grades were going to be!
As the end of 2010 rolls around, I've been doing some recapping of the year and how much growth I've made. Not only do I have my Bachelor's degree now, but I have completed my first semester of graduate school without having a single panic attack... GO ME!!! =) I spent an amazing summer in South Korea, teaching English to the most beautiful smiling faces anyone could ever ask for to see first thing in the morning. I watched my little brother grow into a husband as he married the love of his life, giving me another sister to call for advice. I helped my father create an online empire of cooking lessons and lifestyle changes, while supporting our wounded military members. I became accepting of my independence as a strength rather than a character flaw. Of course, I can't forget that I went from a blonde to a brunette!
Many changes have been made these past 12 months, both good and bad. However they may have affected me, they have created stepping stones on the path that God has created for me to follow. I am firm believer in the fact that he knows what is best for me and I trust his judgment.
For those who have been part of my life in 2010, whether still a part or not, I thank you for being part of my growth. Without each of you, who knows where I would be right now. Like always, my family is my rock for stability. They have helped me through some very tough decisions this year and supported me no matter what decision I made. My brothers have been my protectors, making sure my heart does not become broken. My sisters have been my guidance counselors, always awake at night when I can't sleep from all the junk floating around in my head. I couldn't ask for anything more from them.
I've definitely noticed a trend between my friends and relationships in 2010. Both seem to have this bell curve going on, fading in and out. When one door closes, another door opens. While some people have faded out because the relationship between the two of us was not what I thought it was, others have resurfaced to bring back old memories and rekindle what used to be there. Even new relationships that have been made in the past few months have helped me see the light at the end of the tunnel. Again, I know that God knows what is best for me and he has put all of these people in my life for a reason.
We have a few more weeks in 2010 and I am going to make the best of them. I hope everyone has an amazing holiday season and look for more posts to be coming soon!!
I have decided that I am going to end each blog with a new quote... so enjoy!
"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of your friends, who thinks you are just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.... the one who turns to his friends and says "that's her!" "
As the end of 2010 rolls around, I've been doing some recapping of the year and how much growth I've made. Not only do I have my Bachelor's degree now, but I have completed my first semester of graduate school without having a single panic attack... GO ME!!! =) I spent an amazing summer in South Korea, teaching English to the most beautiful smiling faces anyone could ever ask for to see first thing in the morning. I watched my little brother grow into a husband as he married the love of his life, giving me another sister to call for advice. I helped my father create an online empire of cooking lessons and lifestyle changes, while supporting our wounded military members. I became accepting of my independence as a strength rather than a character flaw. Of course, I can't forget that I went from a blonde to a brunette!
Many changes have been made these past 12 months, both good and bad. However they may have affected me, they have created stepping stones on the path that God has created for me to follow. I am firm believer in the fact that he knows what is best for me and I trust his judgment.
For those who have been part of my life in 2010, whether still a part or not, I thank you for being part of my growth. Without each of you, who knows where I would be right now. Like always, my family is my rock for stability. They have helped me through some very tough decisions this year and supported me no matter what decision I made. My brothers have been my protectors, making sure my heart does not become broken. My sisters have been my guidance counselors, always awake at night when I can't sleep from all the junk floating around in my head. I couldn't ask for anything more from them.
I've definitely noticed a trend between my friends and relationships in 2010. Both seem to have this bell curve going on, fading in and out. When one door closes, another door opens. While some people have faded out because the relationship between the two of us was not what I thought it was, others have resurfaced to bring back old memories and rekindle what used to be there. Even new relationships that have been made in the past few months have helped me see the light at the end of the tunnel. Again, I know that God knows what is best for me and he has put all of these people in my life for a reason.
We have a few more weeks in 2010 and I am going to make the best of them. I hope everyone has an amazing holiday season and look for more posts to be coming soon!!
I have decided that I am going to end each blog with a new quote... so enjoy!
"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of your friends, who thinks you are just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.... the one who turns to his friends and says "that's her!" "
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