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So chapter 7 is all about quotes from men that the author thought were extremely important for women to see. She grouped them into categories according to what the men were talking about. Categories are "15 signs that women are needy," "15 reasons men play it cool," "15 male views on keeping the romance alive," "15 things that turn men off," "15 reasons men prefer a fiesty woman," and "the top 10 ways to tell a man is in love." I will give you guys a quote from each section that I felt was the best and then the lessons I took away from the chapter..
Signs that women are needy.... "I think a woman that talks less is more attractive because it makes her more mysterious.It is not a good thing to just ramble on. Communication should be about quality not quantity. If a woman is uncomfortable or bothered, he should be able to feel it without her saying a word."
Reasons men play it cool.... "Men are needier sexually. Women can control their sex drives, whereas men are controlled by theirs."
Keeping the romance alive... "I like a woman who takes the intiative sexually from time to time. Maybe not the first time, but definitely when you are in a relationship. It makes him feel like you want him more."
Turning men off... "I like a woman I can see without any pressure involved. If a guy is under a lot of pressure and she adds to it, he'll immediately shut down."
Preferring a fiesty woman... "When you banter with a woman and she can give it right back to you, it's a turn on."
When a man is in love...."Suddenly he feels like he can stop looking around the corner for someone else."
AND the lessons from Chapter 7.....
~ Many women talk a lot out of nervousness - which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity.
~ Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he's with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun.
~ Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he'll pay even less attention to your feelings.
~ In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he'll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long.
~ Men treat women the way they treat other men. They play it cool because they don't want to appear weak or desperate.
~ The element of surprise both inside and outside the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement.
~ Don't always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn't become a predictable routine.
~ Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable.
~ Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.
~ Men automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.
~ When a man falls in love, suddenly he'll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He'll do things for this woman he wouldn't have done for anyone else.
Chapter 8 is about being financially independent so that at any time he can not hold your dependence on him over your head....
~ He'll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own two feet financially.
~ You have to show that you won't accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.
~ Your pink slip is mantained when you can stand on your own - with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely at his mercy.
~ When a man views a woman as a "little girl" or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn't want to make love to his sister.
~ The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that will give you more power than any material object ever will.
~ In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn't bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person.
~ Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has 100 percent hold on you.
~ Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on.
~ People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight.
AND... quote for the night....
"When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them."
- Marilyn Monroe
GOODNIGHT EVERYONE!!
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