Through chapters 1 and 2, this is the basic break down of what I have been taught...
Don't chase him because giving it up too much while only make him run the other direction.
ALWAYS answering his calls and be there for last minute trips to his place means he has control over you and is going to use you as a doormat. Make sure to never cancel plans you already had.
Act as a prize to be won and he will turn into a believer.
Be the Christmas toy he always wanted but never got.
Sometimes men deliberatly do not call to see how you respond and how far he can push you. Don't sweat and act as if nothing even phased you.
The biggest variable between a bitch and a girl who is too nice is fear. A bitch is not afraid to show she can be without him.
Not giving in all the time makes you more of a challenge to him and more valuable to win over.
I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! More updates to come later!!
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
- Marilyn Monroe
or just be yourself.
ReplyDeleteUsually(99% of the time) a book written by women on men are completely wrong. Everything this says it's whats each sex does to each other. Love and relationships aren't about challenges and control. If you have to put this much effort on something that isn't working, then clearly it isn't meant to be.
Ideally, you should date the best friend type, at least that's how it should feel(to me). No bull, no drama, just hanging out and growing together. With the obvious benefits of course.
There should be no challenge, no who's in control, none of that. Just you and the other, equal, taking it easy, doing what they want to do and being themselves.
True love is when the other gets drunken, disturbed, brutal, rude, crude, loud, obnoxious, perverted, obnoxious...etc...and, even though upset, you don't really care, cause you remember how they didn't either, and just took care of you. Then made fun of you in the morning when they made you the hangover cure breakfast with coffee.
This book isn't about control. It's teaching you how to make sure it is an equalt partnership and not one person controlling the other. I've read plenty of books that have said one person should always be in control but this is definitely not one of them! I am in love with it because its teaching me how to be in control of myself and not allow my priorities to be pushed aside for his. It's a challenge in a good sense, not a bad. A challenge in that you constantly keep each other on your toes and the relationship is always exciting. I would not say this book is wrong.
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